when the media gives you shitty lgbtq “representation”, don’t be satisfied





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Fun fact! Trans and nonbinary people who choose not to go on hormones, get surgery, etc. are still totally valid! Nonbinary people who choose not to present as “androgynous” are still totally valid! Binary trans people who choose not to present traditionally feminine or masculine based on their gender are still totally valid!

Stop policing everyone’s identity. It isn’t difficult.

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i really hate it when people say you shouldn’t use the computer or watch tv before going to bed and instead you should read a book because you need winding down time or you won’t sleep. ha ha good one do you know what happens if i start a book before bed?! i end up fucking finishing it that’s what

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Q: I can't help but find it rather amusing how self-righteous sjws are in general (I consider you one of them). You think you're making all these great, progressive changes in the world, you think you're the voice of every oppressed minority? Like hell. In reality, you're probably just a young girl sitting at a computer screen, thinking she's the goddam queen for yelling stuff like "STUPID IS AN ABELIST TERM!11!!" at everyone who passes. Your blog is inconsequencial and full of shit.



I’m not posting this to respond to the ironically self-righteous asshole, but to comment on how anonymous hate functions as a method to silence women on the internet. Let’s break this comment down really quickly.

First, there is the attempt to call me a “Social Justice Warrior” as an insult. Second, there is the attempt to insult me by calling me a “young girl,” with the intent to make me feel diminished and immature and the implication that young girls are stupid, self-righteous, and too full of themselves. Finally, there is the attempt to belittle my work by saying that it is inconsequential and full of shit.

I could rebut all of these points. I choose to call myself a SJW with a bit of humor, and I don’t see it as an insult. I’m most definitely not a young girl; I just graduated college and I work a full time job, which is why I haven’t been posting a lot lately. Furthermore, I find that young girls make some of the most insightful comments about feminism and Doctor Who, and their input has influenced the posts I write for this blog. This person’s attempt to call me a “young girl” would only insult me if I bought into their misogynistic opinions about the intelligence and assertiveness of young girls. Finally, I could remind this person that my work has been published and funded by grants, and that 14,000+ people follow this blog, so I know that others have recognized my work is good and that it is influencing others. Personally, I don’t really care if this doesn’t change the world in big dramatic ways. I’m just happy if it starts a discussion.

But that won’t change this person’s mind or stop them from sending me anonymous hate, because this isn’t really about me or my work. They are not engaging or criticizing any particular thing that I’ve discussed on my blog. They just want me to shut up.

You’re not important. You’re stupid and self-involved and too confident in yourself. Your work is shit and won’t change anything.

That’s not something someone says when they just disagree with you and want to criticize your work. That’s someone who hates the fact that you exist and you’re talking, and they just want to insult you and make you feel bad so that you shut up.

So, ladies, if you get anonymous hate messages like this, remember that it’s not really about you or your work. It’s a silencing tactic. Don’t let them silence you.

katedrawscomics said: The irony of a drive-by-hater anon calling anything ‘inconsequential’ is staggering.

Shhhh, that’s too much self-reflection for your average troll. You’ll hurt their poor little heads.

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The Boxtrolls is transmisogynist


So I went to see The Boxtrolls today having been very excited about all of the publicity, the general theme of the film, and all of the posters I saw of what appeared to be same gender families.


I left the cinema in tears because of it. It’s very transmisogynist. I do not advise anyone, especially trans women, to see this film. I’ll explain why below.

TW FOR THE CONTENT BELOW. It contains spoilers and descriptions of transmisogyny.

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Oh wow. I didn’t know this. I’m sorry. I too was suckered in by the same-gender parents thing.

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I gave a speech on bisexual health at a medical association conference a few years ago. One of the attendees, who is a mental health professional — he’s a therapist — wasn’t at my talk, but when he heard the topic of my speech, he told me, 'Oh, when I have clients who say they’re bi, I really question it. I really make them talk it through, and we examine it very closely.'

I said, 'What if they say they’re gay?' He was gay, by the way.

He said, 'Oh, in that case, we just talk about whatever they came to me for.'

Amy Andre in Nothing About Us Without Us from her speech on problems of Physical Health in the Bisexual Community, at a bisexual roundtable on 23 September 2013 in Washington DC USA (via bialogue-group)

It’s this shit right here that gets me so fucking mad at people who trivialise biphobia and monosexism by saying shit like “oh the worst you get is people thinking you are confused and greedy”, as if those stereotypes has no real consequences for bisexuals.

This is a fucking therapist, a man in charge of helping people overcome mental health issues and trauma, admitting freely that he and his colleagues treat bisexuality as if it is a mental health problem and a symptom of mental disturbance to be treated and cured.

He is telling a bi woman that he doesn’t treat gay people the same way and I’m pretty sure that he doesn’t treat straight folks that way, he is singling out bisexuals because he thinks there is something wrong with us identifying that way, because we are, in his mind, confused.

It makes me sick to think that he is making clients doubt and dissect their own sexuality, blamed their bisexuality for their mental state, told them that bisexuality was a symptom or something to take centre-stage over everything because he thinks it’s not as natural or mentally healthy as monosexuality.

This attitude towards bisexuality is endemic to the medical health industry, especially mental health, which is already a problematic field given how much stigma is attached to mental illness.

So many times I hear bisexuals express their anger at being told by qualified therapists and doctors that they were confused, greedy and/or unstable and therefore had to jump through pointless hoops, longer and more invasive therapy sessions, or even worse, threatened with having treatment withheld or taken in a direction completely different from monosexuals because “it’s all in their heads” or “just doing it for attention”. All because the person in charge takes Freud a little too seriously and/or believes all the shitty stereotypes that seem ever so trivial and not worth combatting to biphobia-deniers.

And people wonder why bisexuals don’t come out to health professionals? They wonder why we don’t come out at all? They wonder why bisexuals have a rate of suicide and poor health way above straight and gay people?

Don’t ever tell me that is trivial. Bisexuals die because of these stereotypes, they are killed by these so-called mental health professionals telling them that they need to be cured by denying themselves and are erased after death by monosexism. Fuck everyone who doesn’t think that’s worth caring about.

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